In today’s modern lifestyle, we are challenged to find the middle way/ground.
Sometimes to me it feels like being on a tightrope. If I am on the tightrope, and I am secure in my balance, then everything is fine. It's fun to be up there, and I feel secure and safe. I can relax.
But if I start to lose my balance, it stops being fun. The more out of balance I am, the more I feel that I need to grab onto something, anything, to save myself. I become desperate. And desperate people will do almost anything.
January on the whole was quite a BALANCED month for me. I fell off the tightrope for a couple of days but with the help of friends found my way back. What I find comforting is having the word hovering/floating in my mind, urging me to find the middle ground.
In just that way, when life is in balance it's fun. I am happy and secure. I have all of the things that I need, and I don't have a lot of worries.
When I have balanced my work time and my rest time, I am are not overtired, and apt to be cranky and show poor ability to gauge a situation.
When I have balanced my nutritional needs, my body becomes healthy, and I have more energy and feel better about everything.
When I have balanced my budget, I have enough money to meet my expenses, and aren't worried that my creditors are going to be knocking at the door, or that I will be going hungry.
When I have balanced the time I spend away from my family and the time I spend with them, no one feels neglected (neither myself nor my family) and so no one is demanding, and there is harmony in the home.
We know when we have achieved balance, because things run smoothly, and we can maintain them with joy and equanimity. We don't need someone else to tell us; in fact no one else can tell us, any more than someone else can tell us when we are balanced on our bicycle. Remember learning to ride? Took a while to find our balance, didn't it? But when we had, we knew it. We could feel it.
It's just exactly like that.
I am learning that the balance needs to be found before it can become automatic, and find it by leaning a little in one direction or the other until it's there. When it is, I will know it. And I won't let anyone else tell me I are wrong.
You may need four hours of sleep a night to stay in balance. Some people really do need only four. You may need ten. Some do. Don't let anyone tell you you should need eight. You need the amount you need to feel rested and alert, day after day after day. Get it, and your whole life will improve!
When we find the balance in any portion of our life, and we will find our whole life improving! When we are truly balanced, I think we will find that we have lost all desire to hurt other people.
At the core of everything that philosophy is teaching me, is a commitment to keep learning and then sharing what is learned with others who care to listen.
Sculpture by the Sea - November 2008 - Another example of balancing.