"Make up your mind" is a phrase that's rarely used without some undercurrent of frustration or impatience.
It is likely to be thrown at us when we can't seem to act decisively. Or when we can't choose instantly between competing possibilities. We might use it ourselves if we know what we want and someone else seems to be dithering.
It is a phrase that sends a strong message of criticism - as though instant decision-making were itself a virtue, regardless of the seriousness of the situation.
The chance to make up our own minds - and to know them - is one of the greatest gifts of human consciousness. In lives as privileged as most of ours are, "choice" has real meaning.
We can "make up our minds" about our most fundamental decisions - including our lifestyle, values, relationships, beliefs and goals.
We can't determine everything that happens to us, but we can decide what steps we will then take. We can think hard about our strengths and how we are using them. We can also take charge of what influences us......recognising this can be daunting. But I see it as liberating.
"Making up our own minds" means we are not letting circumstances, laziness or other people make up our minds or run our lives for us.
Self-responsibility triumphs here.
And it lets us set the compass for our future!
"Once you make a decision, the universe conspires to make it happen."
~~ Ralph Emerson
My friend Dianne made up her mind that cancer was not going to sap the life out of her. She is fighting it and winning! Photo of Dianne in her art studio Feb 2007.