I made the wrong decision.
WRONG
I made the right decision.
Life is about decisions.
1. Am I going to have the practical car or the fast car?
2. Shall I go to college or get a job?
3. Will I have wine, beer or water?
Whatever decision I make is the only one I could make.
Otherwise I would make a different one.
Everything I do I choose.
So what is there to regret?
I am the person I chose to be!
I choose to live on my own so if I need a photo I have to take it myself! 16 April 2009
Well, that is an interesting way to look at it. I still think you can regret your choices only so that you don't make the same poor choice again. You do, however, have to forgive yourself for making poor choices that may have had a negative impact on your life. Otherwise you spend your life looking backward and not forward - living a the life a victim, a victim of your poor choices.
ReplyDeleteLikewise, you have to remember the good choices you make, but cannot rest on your laurels saying, "Look at that wonderful choice I made way back in 1977," and then never make another good choice again.
BTW - great photo of yourself.
You are such a beautiful person.
ReplyDeleteMiruspeg,
ReplyDeleteI've made a lot of INEFFECTIVE decisions. I choose to think of them that way, rather than right or wrong.
Thing is now, I try to think ahead, so my choices support me more in my decision making process than they did when I was younger and not so aware of personal responsibility having an impact...
Well, when we need to make a MAJOR decision we sit down with pen and paper and list the pros and cons of such a decision!!
ReplyDeleteBut you are right, everyday we make thousands of decisions. That is why the thought of time travel is so provocative!
Hey, get yourself a little wobbly tripod, they are great!! Kodak.com sells them!
ASESOME title photo!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteEvery decision gives and takes away. Two roads in the yellow wood and all that. And I love the photo! Nice smile.
ReplyDeleteFirst of all, you took a great photo of yourself! Your personality seems to shine through :-)
ReplyDeleteDecisions... oh, my, how I hate making decisions. I try not to make them, thus I have no mistakes to regret!! Seriously, I weigh choices to death. I guess it's the perfectionist tendency and desire to do the RIGHT thing, make the RIGHT choice, all of the time. I've been trying to decide on which master's degree program to enter for YEARS! See what I mean?
And that's just the tip of the iceberg!
Roban
Looks like Joseph had a wonderful time at Dee Why Beach!
ReplyDeleteI wanted this post to be a little controversial, so "sock it to me" folks.
ReplyDeleteI will be back tomorrow to read more of your thoughts.
Remember to keep smiling.
Peggy
That is a lovely photo.
ReplyDeleteNever regret anything that made you smile...
I am like you and I believe whatever we decided was right for then.
I am liking this big idea in this little post. I agree with you and here is why. The person we are at the time just before the "choice" is the one with the mind of the one making the choice. A mind/soul with a set of experiences and knowledge of the time, no more/no less. We think, we rationalize..or not and then we choose. Later through more experiences, maybe more reading, more days of life under our belts, and the benefit of relationships with people who challenge us and teach us then we prepare again to make another choice, and we make it but as very different minds/souls. It has been this way with my own experience, so yes, we made the decisions at the time with the best mind and information we had at the time, and therefore, we cannot regret that we were wiser, smarter, older, ...we can and should only accept who we were at the time. I think this could potentially free us to go confidently into the world and DECIDE!! :) (clear as mud?) Can you tell I miss blogging!
ReplyDeleteGreat post!
ReplyDeleteSometimes the worst decisions that I've made have come with the greatest lessons in my life.
What a powerful declaration! It touched my heart as I also chose to be on my own (well with my dog) and became my own person.
ReplyDeleteI'm a Hybrid becasue I'm the first of my kind! :)
Hi there Peggy...love that pic! I just wrote a post about honoring your path (see we did it again...). This is just where we are supposed to be. Right now. No regrets. Don't like where you are? Then take the first step toward change!
ReplyDeleteLOL...my word verification: unstuck
True - sometimes a decision of any kind is better than no decision. I was watching 'Touching the Void' the other night (the one about the climber who fell off a mountain when his partner (had to) cut the rope). Well, he spent an awful night in a crevace, hanging off a rope pegged into a wall of ice and he said that in such circumstances you HAVE to make a decision. If he hadn't he would have definitely died - so he decided to go down the rope and see where it led. The whole story is about making decisions. His partner cut the rope - but if he hadn't made that decision he would have been pulled off the mountain too and they probably BOTH would have died.
ReplyDeleteAs for decisions regarding alcohol - yeah, when we make the decision to drink it we must also 'decide' to have a hangover in the morning ;o)
I agree with Jen you are a beautiful person inside and out. You ahve a gorgeous smile - truly alive! We do the best we can and sometimes our decisions are not the right ones. We live and learn. As Ronan says, life is a rollercoaster don't fight it! I made the decision to drink a glass of wine each night on strict instructions.
ReplyDeleteThank you one and all for your fabulous input.....you have given me so much food for thought, I appreciate your wise words.
ReplyDeleteThanks also for your kind words about my photo.....I was having a "good hair day" and thought I had better capture it while I had the chance.
Namaste
Peggy
lovely post as always.
ReplyDeleteyou take lovely photo's to. I cant seem to work out how to follow your blog, using my blog account. but I'm here, even if I dont post lol
We have so major decisions to make up ahead. On the one hand it is scary, and on the other the adventure is exciting!
ReplyDeleteYes Monica scary and exciting usually go hand in hand...enjoy the journey my friend.
ReplyDeletecontroversial is good.. hehe
ReplyDeletejust love you for ..everything about you!
btw, i find that it's much easier to take shots of myself with my handphone camera than the conventional digital camera.
yeah..i take my own pics too... well, at least that makes two of us now..not so bad!!
much love!
I have to "fess up" Silver....I live in the dark ages and my cell/mobile phone does not have a camera included! :-P :-D
ReplyDeleteMuch love back to you.
Peggy
Hi Peggy,
ReplyDeleteChoices...we all make them. And because of those choices, our life is as it is. And the thing is, if we want to change, we can choose to do that to. That's the message I'm getting here - that we can always choose...and that's a liberating thought!
Peggy, I loved reading this post! What a great way to look at things. It's another way, I guess of seeing the glass half full instead of half empty - or so it seems to me. When we moved back to Cleveland, I made some ruthless decisions about getting rid of things. A few months later, I looked back and regretted donating some of the items. Now, interestingly enough, I can't remember what the donated items were, so I guess they weren't all that important. And those decisions I made did give me a bit more peace in my life - less stuff/more peace (at least for me). I LOVE the picture you took of yourself. Your postings are always so helpful to me!! Thank you again! Love, Jan
ReplyDeleteLance - Yes choice can be a very liberating/powerful tool and AVT Coach summed it up very well in her comment above.
ReplyDeleteAlso when people like yourself write inspiring posts that offer us different ways of thinking it "frees us to go confidently into the world and DECIDE".
Jan - I ALWAYS think of the glass as half full and if it gets below that I top it up...lol.
ReplyDeleteI really do believe we make the right decisions most of the time especially when it comes to our belongings.....it is important to lighten the load we carry.
Exciting times ahead for you Jan in your new home.....enjoy!
Much love
Peggy
hi peg... here via hybrid j :)
ReplyDeleteHello back to you laughingwolf....love your name!
ReplyDeleteI am going to enjoy building an online creative community with you, Hybrid and the others.
:-)
i KNOW it's gonna work out wonderfully well :)
ReplyDeleteHI, a very interesting view point. Surely I made a few "wrong" decisions which I considered appropriate at first. Had to go back and recosnider and decide differently. A hard but effective way to learn. However I think that your viewpoint might save you a lot of worries. Paula
ReplyDeletePaula - Yes you have hit the nail on the head. Once we have made a decision whether right or wrong worrying is not going to change the outcome of the situation. I just try and learn from my mistakes.
ReplyDelete:-)
Hi Peggy,
ReplyDeleteThank you so much for sharing your "The Light" post with me. It helped to steady my steps forward. Blessed be ... :)
Just dropped by to hear your sound track as I blog. Err, you'd think I would do my own but....ok I admit, I am lazy. Have a good day.
ReplyDeleteHeheheh! You are so cute. My children and husband sometimes act up when I tell them to pose for photos but most of the time they oblige. My father was a photographer and in order for him to join is he set up the camera on timer or with an extended presser so I am used to taking my own photos.
ReplyDeleteAs for decisions, why not have both if you can, except for the alcoholic beverages. I can't drink because half a glass of wine will make me fall asleep and I don't want to miss out on the fun!